Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Mommy Needs Coffee: Daycare

Workout: 30 min Contrarian Core Yoga Flow + 20 min interval run

Ahh yes, I only got 6 hours of sleep but I still awoke refreshed. Again, I need to get better about "getting ready for sleepy time" at 10 - not 10:30 and definitely not after 11.

Here's Jason's (awesome instructor) on today's flow:

Talk about opening a can of worms...I actually suggest that the abdominals are not necessarily "core" throughout this practice. I'm not sure if it was a moment of insanity, clarity, or both, but you should definitely tune in and add to the discussion. My point is that I can't believe I'm publishing this--but "core" seems to be evocative of much and descriptive of little. What this class does focus on is the relationship between your inner-legs, pelvic floor, hip-flexors and abdominal center. It's like my other, ahem, "core" classes, but a bit longer. Try it out, it's pretty good (if contrarian).

I have to say, I've never thought about our "core" in that way - but it kind of makes sense. Agree/Disagree?

I also love his classes. I'm always amazed by the simplicity of his flows and how demanding they prove to be. The most simple of poses really do require so much strength, I definitely feel STRONGER after each class. WinWin!

Now let's have some coffee and talk daycare - shall we?

Last week I caught the following story: Is Your Daycare Safe? Scary stuff.

Of course I worry, but I do think my daycare is safer than this (*I hope*) and I really like all the care takers. I'm able to relate to all of them and it seems like they run a very tight ship. Just look at this schedule:

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My BB is a toddler!

For everything that my daycare offers, though - there's still some guilt. I won't lie. I wish I could stay at home with her and take her to story time at the library or play time at a park. I feel like I'm missing out on so much. 

I try to rationalize it since she's at day care for 8 hours so I tell myself that 2 of those are for nap time, 1 hour for eating and 1 hour for changing diapers. That means (by my awesome logic) that I'm only away from her for 4 hours. My mind can handle that! However, my mind doesn't like it much when others unknowingly add to the guilt.

Last week, a friend told me she couldn't put her babies in a daycare because it would "break her heart". She would rather juggle her family's schedule while her family caretaker (who's dealing with health issues) until she was back in business. I asked her what was wrong with a daycare and mentioned all the positives, but she still said she couldn't do it because she didn't have to. She said she might look at things differently if "she had to".

I don't thing she meant to make me feel guilty, but she did. We don't really "have to" put BB in daycare, we could ask my mom and his mom to alternate but I really think that would be an imposition on them.  BB has all sorts of energy so watching after her is literally a full-time job.

Plus, we both believe daycare actually helps her development. Take this article, HIGH-QUALITY EARLY CHILDCARE = LATER ACADEMIC SUCCESS? We hope that the skills she's building now will help her in school and later on in life.

I like that her Development center follows a schedule, not to mention the practice she gets socially - she's turning into a little butterfly. We're currently working on what "gentle" means, she's slowly getting it but any tips would be greatly appreciated.

How about you, what are your thoughts on daycare?



Kimberly said... Best Blogger Tips

There is such an ideal for moms to live up to, even now, and it can be so frustrating when people unknowingly force it on others. I'm not sure if I could have handled that situation gracefully.

Miles is in daycare though it is more of a caregiver situation in a house. She's accredited, there's lots of kids but it's very ... well, hippie. I felt guilty in the beginning but I know we're both better off for it. If I was home with him, he would not get the attention he does there. I would be running errands, cleaning, cooking, grasping for me time. There, he can learn from other kids and adapt to not being the star. Also, he does things at daycare that he won't do for me. Like eat green beans.

The only downside is that he can be a complete crab at home and smiles immediately for Diana. He knows how to make his mom feel like doody.